Terry D. Hargrave

Professor of Marital and Family Therapy, Department of Marriage and FamilySchool of Psychology

Contact Information
626-584-5347
Education
BS, West Texas State University
MA, West Texas State University
MA, Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary
PhD, Texas Woman’s University

Biographical Information

Terry D. Hargrave joined the School of Psychology in 2008 as professor of marital and family therapy. He came to Fuller with 19 years of teaching experience at the University of Mississippi, Amarillo College, and West Texas A&M University, and over 20 years of experience counseling couples, families, and individuals.

With interests in forgiveness, aging, and intensive marital therapy, Hargrave has authored or co-authored 11 books. His most recent books are Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy (2011) and Five Days to a New Marriage (2011), and others include Boomers on the Edge: Three Realities That Will Change Your Life Forever (2008), The Essential Humility of Marriage: Honoring the Third Identity in Couples Therapy (2000), and Families and Forgiveness: Healing Wounds in the Intergenerational Family (1994).

He serves on the editorial boards of the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy and Marriage and Family: A Christian Journal and has also published articles in the Journal of Family Therapy, Journal of the Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, the Journal of Psychology and Christianity, and Journal of Professional Counseling. Hargrave is a member of the American Counseling Association and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and has appeared on ABC’s 20/20 and Good Morning America and CBS’s Early Morning.

Courses Taught

  • FI510: Integration Formation Group
  • FI515/815: Forgiveness, Reconciliation and Clinical Practice
  • FL504: Marriage and Interpersonal Relations
  • FS510: Gender and Sexuality
  • FT514: Family Therapy
  • FT530C: Clinical Foundations 3
  • FT535: Group Therapy
  • FT561/861: Advanced Family Therapy Techniques
  • PF814: Family Therapy

Areas of Expertise, Research, Writing, and Teaching

Forgiveness, aging and caregiving, intensive marital therapy, contextual family therapy

Publications

Books

  • Hargrave, T.D. & Pfitzer, F. (2011). Restoration therapy: Understanding and guiding healing in marriage and family therapy. New York: Routledge.
  • Hargrave, T. D. & Stoever, S. (2011). Five days to a new marriage. Amarillo, TX: The Hideaway Foundation.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2008). Boomers on the edge: Three realities that will change your life forever. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2008). Strength and courage for caregivers: 30 Hope-filled morning and evening reflections. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2005). Loving your parents when they can no longer love you. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Pfitzer, F. (2003). The new contextual therapy: Guiding the power of give and take. New York: Brunner Routledge.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2001). Forgiving the devil: Restoring relationships in damaging families. Phoenix: Zieg, Tucker and Theisen, Publishers.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2000). The essential humility of marriage: Honoring the third identity in couples therapy. Phoenix: Zieg, Tucker, and Theisen Publishers.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Hanna, S. Eds. (1997). The aging family: New visions of theory, practice, and reality. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1994). Families and forgiveness: Healing wounds in the intergenerational family. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Anderson, W.T. (1992). Finishing well: Aging and reparation in the intergenerational family. New York: Brunner/Mazel.

Chapters

  • Hargrave, T.D. & Yoon Hammer, M. (2015). Contextual therapy. In E.S. Neukrug (Ed.), Encyclopedia of theory in counseling and psychotherapy. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Yoon Hammer, M. (2013). Contextual family therapy. In L. Barron & R. Ramirez (Eds.), Reviewing our common body of knowledge: MFT license exam Preparation manual (5th edition). pp. 22-31. Austin, TX: Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.
  • Hargrave, T. D. (2011). Saving Oneself: Forgiving the poisonous parents as an act of kindness to oneself and future generations. In S. Dunham, S. Dermer, & J. Carlson (Eds.) Poisonous parenting: Toxic relationships between parents and their adult children. New York: Routledge.
  • Hargrave, T.D., Froeschle, J., & Castillo, Y. (2009). Forgiveness and spirituality: Elements of healing in relationships. In F. Walsh (Ed.) Spiritual resources in family therapy (2nd ed.). pp. 301-322. New York: Guilford.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Williams, G.J. (2006). Developing forgiveness. In K.B. Helmeke and C.F. Sori (Eds.) The therapist’s notebook for integrating spirituality in counseling. pp. 113-126. New York: The Hayworth Press.
  • Hargrave, T. D. & McDuff, L. (2005). Expanding your income and practice by writing for the popular media. In S. M. Harris, D. C. Ivey and R. A. Bean (Eds.), A practice that works: Strategies to compliment your stand alone therapy practice. pp. 75-82. New York: Routledge.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Metcalf, L. (2000). Rewind the past, fast forward solutions: Solution focused family of origin therapy. In L. VanderCreek (Ed.), Innovations in clinical practice: A source book (Volume 18). Sarasota, FL: Professional Resource Press.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Hanna, S. (1997). Aging: A primer for family therapists. In T.D. Hargrave & S. Hanna (Eds.), The aging family: New visions of theory, practice, and reality. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Anderson, W.T. (1997). Finishing well: A contextual family therapy approach to the aging family. In T.D. Hargrave & Hanna (Eds.), The aging family: New visions of theory, practice, and reality. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
  • Hanna S. & Hargrave, T.D. (1997). Integrating the process of aging and family therapy. In T.D. Hargrave & S. Hanna (Eds.), The aging family: New visions of theory, practice, and reality. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
  • Hanna S., Hargrave, T.D. & Miller, R.B. (1997). Future directions for family therapy with aging families. In T.D. Hargrave & S. Hanna (Eds.), The aging family: New visions of theory, practice, and reality. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1996). Contextual family therapy. In D. R. Ratliff & L. Yingling (Eds.), Reviewing our common body of knowledge: MFT license exam preparation manual. pp. 2.1-2.8. Austin, TX: Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

Journal Articles

  • Hargrave, T. D., & Hammer, M. Y. (2011). Forgiveness and trauma: Working with love, justice and power for healing. Psyche and Geloof. 22 (2), 102-111.
  • Hargrave, T. D. (2010). Restoration therapy: A couple therapy case study. Journal of Psychology and Christianity. 29 (3), 272-277.
  • Froeschle, J., Castillo, Y., Mayorga, M., & Hargrave, T. (2008). Counseling techniques for adolescent females with polycystic ovary syndrome. Journal of Professional Counseling: Practice. 36 (1) , 17-29.
  • Froeschle, J.G., Mayorga, M., Castillo, Y. & Hargrave, T. (2008). Strategies to prevent and heal the mental anguish caused by cyberbullying. Middle School Journal. 39, 30-35.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Brammer, R. (2006). Communication, systems, and misconduct with adolescent students. Journal of School Public Relations. 2, 181-195.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Brammer, R. (2005). Determining the effectiveness of premarital education delivery methods. Journal of the Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. 10, 4-32.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & McDuff, L. (2004). Caregiving for Alzheimer’s patients: New challenges for the family. Marriage and Family: A Christian Journal. 7, 51-61.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2003). Caring, connecting, and contributing: The power caregiving. Church and Society. 93, 36-43.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Williams, G. (2003). A contextual therapy model for understanding emotions. Marriage and Family: A Christian Journal. 6, 63-71.
  • Hargrave, T.D., & Williams, G. (2002). Clinical implications for a contextual system model of grief due to death. Journal of the Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. 7, 31-41.
  • Izat, J.G., Hargrave, T.D., Brammer, R., & Williams, G. (2001). Using internet technology to facilitate anonymous communication in world wide web delivered multiculturalism in education courseware. Annual Proceedings for the Society for Information Technology in Teacher Education.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2000). What does it mean to grow strong families? Journal of the Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. 5, 13-19.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1999). Commentary on expanding the discourse of care: Family constructed biographies of nursing home residents. Families, Systems & Health. 17, 487-491.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1999). The work of forgiveness: Miles to go before we sleep. Marriage and Family: A Christian Journal. 2, 315-323.
  • Sells, J.N. & Hargrave, T.D. (1998). Forgiveness: A review of the theoretical and empirical literature. Journal of Family Therapy. 20, 2, 21-36.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1997). Contextual assessment of older adults. Journal of the Texas Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. 2, 1, 47-62.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Sells, J.N. (1997). The development of a forgiveness scale. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy. 23, 1, 41-62.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1994). Families and forgiveness: A theoretical and therapeutic framework. The Family Journal. 2, 339-348.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1994). Therapeutic utilization of video life review. Journal of Family Therapy. 16, 3, 259-267.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Bomba, A.K. (1993). Further Validation of the relational ethics scale. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 19, 292-299.
  • Hargrave, T.D., Jennings, G. & Anderson, W.T. (1991). The development of a relational ethics scale. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 17, 2, 311-320.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (1991). Utilizing inexpensive communication systems: Building one-way mirrors for private practice consultation and supervision. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 17, 1, 89-91.
  • Hargrave, T.D. & Anderson, W.T. (1990). Helping older people finish well: A contextual family therapy approach. Family Therapy, 23, 1, 9-19.
  • Anderson, W.T. & Hargrave, T.D. (1990). Contextual family therapy and older people: Building trust in the intergenerational family. Journal of Family Therapy, 12, 4, 145-158.

Magazine Articles

  • Hargrave, T.D. (2011, March/April). Balancing concerns in therapeutic forgiveness. Family Therapy Magazine, 10, 14-17.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2010, September/October). Case studies: Case commentary. Psychotherapy Networker, 34, 68-69.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2006, July/August). Case studies: Failure to launch. Psychotherapy Networker, 30, 79-83.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2005, July/August). When you’re 64. Psychotherapy Networker, 29, 4, 55-61.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2005). The race for happiness. The high calling of our daily work: http://www.thehighcalling.org/Library/ViewLibrary.asp?LibraryID=2925. San Antonio, TX: H.E. Butts Foundation.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2005). Folded, mutilated, and bent out of shape. The high calling of our daily work: http://www.thehighcalling.org/Library/ViewLibrary.asp?LibraryID=2751. San Antonio, TX: H.E. Butts Foundation.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2003). The alchemy of caregiving. The high calling of our daily work: http://www.thehighcalling.org/Library/ViewLibrary.asp?LibraryID=1696. San Antonio, TX: H.E. Butts Foundation.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2002, September/October). Hard questions: Now who calls the shots? Modern Maturity, 45, 5 53.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2002, July/August). Hard questions: What to do when Dad drinks. Modern Maturity, 45, 4 53.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2002, May/June). Hard questions: In-laws from hell: What happens when you’re trapped in the middle? Modern Maturity, 45, 3 32-33.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2002, March/April). Hard questions: After a suicide, can a family ever be normal again? Modern Maturity, 45, 2 28-29.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2002, January/February). Hard questions: Has my mother turned into my child? Modern Maturity, 45, 1 22-23.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2001, November/December). Hard questions: Holiday burnout. Modern Maturity, 44, 6 28-30.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2001, September/October). Hard questions: Shattered trust. Modern Maturity, 44, 5 28-30.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2001, July/August). Hard questions: For love of Mom’s money. Modern Maturity, 44, 4 28-30.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2001, May/June). Hard questions: Who gets all the good stuff? Modern Maturity, 44, 3 30-32.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2001, March/April). Hard questions: Who says when it’s time to turn in the car keys? Modern Maturity, 44, 2 28-29.
  • Hargrave, T.D. (2001, July/August). Case studies: The ineffable “us-ness” of marriage. Psychotherapy Networker, 25, 4 55-61.

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